Breaking Bad Habits…66 days?

Posted: December 11, 2011 in Uncategorized
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Can be done. But it’s definitely not easy.

Apparently, while reading some research on this matter, 66 days is how long it takes to make something a habit. So that would mean I have another 2 weeks or so to have made my ‘non-playeresque’ ways a habit. Problem is, like anything in life, you need to be able to practice them on someone/something. Which is obviously hard when you are single!

I guess in a way I have been practicing on friends of the opposite sex. I am still flirtatious, still undecided on how bad a behaviour this is. People have always commented on my charismatic ways, being a flirt seems to be part of this. But I guess it depends on what is said and in the context of the conversation. I have had conversations recently with female friends that have been laced with sexual innuendo. humorous tone and context, but while I was in these conversations I was thinking; “Is this a negative behaviour?” Yes, I still respected these female friends and we all had a great laugh about everything that was being said. BUT I was challenging myself with this question.

Breaking Bad Habits is basically changing you as a person. Assuming that you have identified these habits as Bad then getting rid of them should help create a better person. Right? Then what if you start having self-arguments about them being OK or not as bad as I may think? These are the exact feelings I have been having recently. EAC and I had a quick conversation last night and the whole good vs evil decisions was mentioned. She used a great analogy about decision making. If the decisions you make seem to bring you closer to God and a positive way of life then the decision must be GOOD. If the decisions you make seem logical and make sense but take you further away from God then they must be EVIL. This made sense to me. Many times in my life I was able to justify logical decisions I made, convincing  myself that they were the RIGHT decision to make. Then in hindsight realising that they weren’t the right decision, as the inevitable outcome was never positive. The journey towards the outcome was GREAT but the end result was always TERRIBLE.

It’s like my decision to head overseas. SO many people have tried to convince me that this is a bad decision. People have asked me; “Do you think you are just running away?”, without hesitation I reply “Absolutely!” I’m not living in a fantasy world. My decision to go overseas was not taken lightly. My decision makes absolute sense to me. People too quickly forget that at the end of the day I am the one who is left all alone at night. I am the one who has to keep motivated when there is no one else around. I am the one who has the power to start breaking these bad habits. No one else can do this for me. But my decision to head overseas has financial benefits for me and my whanau too. It it didn’t then I wouldn’t be going at all.

I know that I have already started BBH. I always say goodnight to my whanau now. I make sure to tell them how much I love them and mean it. I try to spend as much time just hanging out with them (which has been hard). I have also tried to make sure my friends know how much they mean to me. And I make sure to ALWAYS say thank you for even the tiniest bit of help from friends and strangers. It’s something I have always done but now I make even more of an effort. 66 days sounds like a long time BUT lets just remember I’ve got almost 2 years to change these Bad Habits too.


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