Had no idea about the premise of this film. I really enjoyed it. Apt title. And perfect for my situation too.

I gave up on M (mother of my children). I couldn’t be bothered trying to safe our relationship. I choose the easiest way out. Hook up with someone else. I kept it secret from her. When she finally found out I had cheated on her with another person too. I’m not proud of it, but if you’ve seen this movie it makes a bit of sense Also if you’ve read most of my blog it makes sense too.

I truly absolutely believe we can’t choose who we fall in love with. We can’t anticipate where our hearts may lead us. M still has my heart…and what makes things harder for me is that A has the other part of my heart. That’s what makes  love so crazy.

M will always be a part of my life, that’s a given with the connection we have as a mother and father. There are certainly times when I think about M, like in the film and my post about reminiscing too. And A is right there in my mind too. With M I cheated on her MANY times and yet she still didn’t want to let me go. A cheated on me only once and I let her go just like that. It just made sense for me to let her go right then. And yet I would still consider re-starting a relationship with either of them. That’s what makes love so stupid.

If we are talking big picture stuff I love to love and I love to be loved. That’s a huge part of my nature. The film talks about soulmates and how you can’t give up on them. It took a really long time for me to give up on M. Like the film we met when I was 17 and she was 16. M was always there for me, just like A was too. Both M and A treated me better than any girlfriend could. I couldn’t keep up my end of the relationship. I should’ve, but I didn’t.

Unlike the film, there was no Grand Gesture. No big public speech in front of friends and family. Just tears, heartbreak and sadness…and anger…but mostly sadness.

Here’s what I know. Going out and meeting women is easy for me, I’m not saying that in a dickhead kind of way, but it always has been easy. What’s changed for me now is that I am more aware of NOT ‘teasing’ women making them think that I am genuinely interested in them. I am friendly and polite but the instant I sense they think there is more…I politely backout. I don’t want to waste their time or mine either. Life is short, There are plenty of fish in the sea, time does heal all wounds…all true. Like I said to one of my mates “I’ve never been a fisherman, but if I’m walking along the beach and a fish jumps out I’ll be more than happy to try it out”. Great film with a protracted and predictable ending.nothing like the real world sadly…

  1. twoplustwo08 says:

    I watched that movie too. I appreciated what it said, and probably got more than what it meant.
    Here’s what I think. Sometimes the grand gesture you think is meant to be given to someone else is not. It’s just for you. And you are living your grand gesture now You are making it so you have your own ‘real-life’ happy but not predictable ending.
    I say good for you!

    • Thanks for the encouragement! Nice to know I have people following my journey. I’m still following yours with intrest too. I think the next time I make a grand gesture i’ll be getting married! Again thanks for the support!

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