People Forget

Posted: August 17, 2012 in Uncategorized
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It’s saddens me to write about this.

I’ve posted before about keeping connected with friends and family. This is something I have made sure to do. It’s something I’d forgotten to do in the past. I’ve made sure to reverse that trend now.

But, most people forget.

In my life I have supported/comforted, etc, etc many family, friends and acquaintances. Some people I have spent many a day and night bringing them up from their own pit of dispair. Maybe a little too dramatic, but you get the picture. It’s in my nature to want to help people. Always has been. I like being there for others. I like to think they would feel the same way. I have found that it isn’t always the case.

People Forget.

It goes back to me making strong connections. I open my heart and my mind to people. People I have only just met. I know this is strange, but I have always worked in reverse with my trust. I give people 100% of “me”…then I start taking back that trust when people ‘wrong me’. It’s like giving students and ‘A’ from the start of the term and they work to keep it..cliche, I know.

I am very skilled at making people feel good about themselves. I help amplify all the positive things that they have going for them. I offer them honest and open advice. I listen. I observe. I empathise. I’m good at it!

SOME people take advantage of this skill.

People forget.

Why have I decided to write about this?

I had some friends going through a similar situation to me last year. They have both now found new significant others. This makes me REALLY happy for them. But what…upsets me is the fact that they don’t seem to want to reconnect since I’ve been home. It just makes me sad. All three of us made strong connections through our shared experiences. Well I guess I thought we did. We all shared very intimate details about our situations, issues that we were going through, etc, etc. But now they are in relationships again I guess they don’t want to be reminded of those times. Fair enough. I can understand that. They know all about my journey too.

To be far, I have only seen one of the two and he did say he would contact me and make dinner plans…3 weeks ago now..LOL…but I’m gonna give him the benefit of the doubt. The other mate I’m gonna contact asap!!

Like I said People Forget.

I wish they didn’t.

  1. WordsFallFromMyEyes says:

    Sounds awful. Find better people!

  2. Hope says:

    Sad but true. People forget, and people change…Many people I know (or used to know) have been acting the same way with me. I didn’t move very far from my hometown, but everytime I go back to visit, they ‘don’t have time’…or just don’t answer…. Yet these are people I once was very close to… I guess some people become selfish when they’re happy, and don’t want to remember their bad days and the people that were there for them at that time….So we just become acquaintances to them…!

  3. frano says:

    Amen bro

  4. alegra22 says:

    Hi D,
    You know I understand this feeling and the tendency to give 100% and then have to pull some back and process disappointment/hurt. I’m trying to change this, to realize I am loyal and life-long, and that I commit deeply to others, so to be a little more precious with my heart. It saves me a lot of hurt and frees up that energy for those who truly meet me with the same love/commitment.

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